The answer is: Just making a decision. When are you ready to cross over the line and say: “Okay, I’ve made a decision.” You may think it’s easy but just try it.

Decisions come in many sizes. It’s the little ones that give you the most trouble.

For years, I tried to decide about something. I took several paths before actually making it. Before I did, I thought about it long and hard and spent lots of money dancing around the moment before I finally could make that decision.

When I finally made it. I realized it could have been a lot easier if I hadn’t had so many options to choose from. That’s why a decision – on anything – is so tough. It’s because of having too many options from which to choose. (“Not my fault, it’s the options!“)

If you have the luxury of not having much to choose from, that is a blessing in disguise. You don’t have to weigh in, figure out, sort through, try and fail before you realize, the answer is usually in front of you all along. You just find it hard to pick the right one.

It’s the distractions along the way that grab your attention and make you work hard to figure something out.

I don’t really have a magic formula for getting to the final decision. Sometimes the only way to get there is to try all roads, walk all paths until you realize which one is right for you.

By that time, you may already be there – at the right decision. Then look back at all the ways you had to go to get there. Was it fun walking all those pathways? Rewarding? Painful? Expensive? You may never know if you could have avoided some of those negatives because you had to try all ways to find the right path for you. But when you do, you’ll know you made the right decision. Because you tried all the other ways and found those ways were not the answer.

So, when you finally make the right decision, you will recognize it by the way it feels. Kind of like you are finally “home.”

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Some people are brave all the time. Some people are afraid. Being afraid isn’t always a bad thing. In fact, it can actually save you from something because you hesitated for a time. And that can be really good.

Being afraid comes in degrees such as being a:  little afraid, afraid, very afraid.

Being a Little Afraid can be an uncertainty, not being sure whether you should do “this” or “that”.

Being Afraid can be can be Life Altering, not knowing if you should begin going down this road, that road, or no road at all.

Being Very Afraid can actually be paralyzing,  not being able to move either literally or figuratively. But it’s a very uncomfortable feeling.

There are also degrees of outcomes for all of them. When you are a Little Afraid, you can put it aside for awhile. Think about a decision, or put it on the back burner for awhile. When you are Afraid, you might stop what you are doing or where you are going and return to “safety”, a time, place or conversation where you feel safe and protected. But, when you are Very Afraid, it is time to talk to someone, get help in discussing or making a decision. Reaching out during a time of being Very Afraid is a safe way to get through a difficult time. Don’t try to “go it alone”. Seek someone to help you if only by listening to what is upsetting you.

Reaching out to someone when you are Very Afraid can sometimes save your life. It certainly will save you from a sleepless night or a wasted time in your life. We all need help at times. There is always someone who will care to listen to you. Don’t be afraid to find them!

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